I have noticed from some of the comments on this blog, that people have made mention of my grandparents. (my dads' parents)
Psychological/Emotional: e.g. shouting, swearing, frightening, or humiliating a person. A common theme is a perpetrator who identifies something that matters to an older person and then uses it to coerce an older person into a particular action. It may take verbal forms such as name-calling, ridiculing, constantly criticizing, accusations, blaming, and general disrespect, or non verbal forms such as ignoring, silence or shunning.
I HAVE asked them if they would be willing to share their story on here, but I also need to realize that there is a LOT of hurt and pain that is still fresh in their minds.
They have recently received some hurtful and libelous email letters from both my mother, father, and brother Michael... ALL of them claiming that, if my grandparents would only quit having ANYTHING to do with me, then repent for keeping in contact with various other former members of the church as well, then all would be as it was before and they could resume the family relationship.
I and a few others have copies of these emails.
I only hope and PRAY, that my children do not marry someone or become like this towards myself or my husband. To say and do such things that DIRECTLY contradict the Scriptures is hard to imagine.
On Christmas Eve of 1999, my grandparents came out to Steinbach and took me out for lunch.
I had been working at a dairy farm at the time and had received a bonus, after I had purchased something for myself, I chose to buy EVERYONE in my family a Christmas present.
After our lunch, when my grandparents dropped me off at my house, they told me that they would be going to my parents' home for supper that night.
I asked them if they would be willing to take all the gifts I had purchased to my family and they were MORE than happy to do so.
After they took the gifts to my parents' house, things completely blew up in their faces. My parents were SO ANGRY that they would even DARE to come see me. ( I had been 'church disciplined')
I cannot speak for them as to what was said, but they left Canada shortly thereafter.
If you don't believe me....Ask them!
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